The Last Four Months in Pictures- Part 2 (September and October)

The Last Four Months in Pictures- Part 1 (July and August)

We closed on our first home less than three weeks after Frank was born.(Kitchen)

 (Garage) We moved in two weeks later.

He's Here

Well he has been here for over a week now.   Frank Salvatore was born on July 6, 2011.  He weighed 8lbs 14 ounces. He was 21.5 inches long and had a head circumference of 36.5 centimeters. Birth story will follow when things chill out a little bit more around here.

Thoughts

Now that Frankie is full term, Joe and I are anxiously awaiting his arrival in a way only those that are part of the loss community can understand. There is this feeling still of waiting for the other shoe to drop and also a sense of this baby being safer out than in.

We also get asked alot if he is our first.  We talked about this the other night. We both,unless it is a medical professional or someone who we know has suffered losses, always answer "yes."  It is just easier that way. But we both agreed that part of us always feels like a liar. Maybe when he is born it will not be that way because he will indeed be our "first" born.

Baby Shower

 My baby shower took place four weeks ago but I've been limiting computer time due to the pain and swelling in my hands. (It has gotten slightly better due to the use of a splint and drinking lots and lots of water.)  The baby shower was very emotional for me.  I spent the first couple of minutes, before most of the guests arrived, in tears, crying out of gratitude to God that this fifth pregnancy had progressed to baby shower status but also sad for all my other babies that not reached that point.

 

Frankie received many wonderful gifts from generous family and friends.

I was so excited to get this book as a gift. I want Frankie to love reading  as much as I do.

Joe and I have agreed that since Frankie will be a Michigander he will root for the Tigers. However, this Brooklyn girl reserves the right to instill some love for the Yankees as long as the are not playing against the Tigers of course. Joe made sure to buy him some Tigers stuff to balance out all the Yankees stuff sent from my stepmom in NY.

The cake said "Snakes and snails and puppy dog tails. That's what little boys are made of."

Taking a break

It's been awhile since I've posted. This upcoming Saturday I will be 36 weeks and everything is going well. I have, however, gotten awful pregnancy induced carpal tunnel. So I am limiting computer time.  I am hoping that I will have a day of relief soon before delivery so I can post some more or at least post shower and nursery pics.  If not maybe I can get hubby to do some posting.

26 weeks

How Far Along: 26 Weeks 3 days

Size of baby: According to Babycenter, Frank Salvatore should be the length of an english hothouse cucumber (14 inches) and weigh about 1 and 2/3 pounds but he was above average weight at the ultrasound and doc is predicting an eight pound baby.

Total Weight Gain/Loss: Gained 12 lbs

Maternity Clothes: I can still wear regular leggings and a few longer shirts but most of my clothes are maternity at this point.

Gender: It's a boy.

Movement: Alot- he seems to be on a schedule though.

Sleep: I sleep pretty well but tend to have a period of wakefulness between 4am and 6 am.

What I miss: being able to paint my own toenails but it's a good excuse to get a professional pedicure.

Cravings:Coffee- I've been drinking a cup of half caf a day for the last couple of weeks.

Symptoms: Round ligament pain, some heartburn, peach fuzz on the belly (eww) and definite pregnancy brain. The other day I heated up my lunch and then had to search the apartment for it for 10 min. I had gotten distracted by a plant the cat knocked over and had placed my meal on the bookshelf.

It's A...

Good anatomy scan!  Joe and I went in last Monday for the anatomy scan aka "the big ultrasound."  My placenta   is in a good position.  The doctor said my cervix is nice and long, which I was relieved to hear.  I was worried for awhile we got through first trimester just to come across some major hurdle in second trimester like an incompetent cervix but fortunately that does not seem to be the case. My amniotic fluid level was normal, too.

The baby is also looking good.  There were no facial or leg and arm abnormalities as far as the tech could tell. The three veins in the spine that are so important are present.  There is no excess fluid on the spine.  Baby was swallowing and moving around alot. The heart has four chambers and the skull is normal.. The tech reassured us that the dark spot on the baby's head was just a shadow and not a huge gaping hole. Oh yeah, there are also testicles and a penis. WE HAVE A SON!

I think he already looks like his daddy,here.

Showing off his muscles, lol.

The Toll

I was ten and a half weeks pregnant when we received our at home doppler. I knew there was a chance I would not be able to find the heart beat so soon. The doctors don't even try that early. Joe and I attempted to find the baby's heartbeat that night but to no avail. I was not discouraged. It was really early to expect to find a heartbeat.  The next morning, after Joe had gone to work, I had a hunch. So I brought out the Babybeat Doppler. Sure enough, I didn't even have to fish around, there was that beautiful galloping sound at 176 bpm. And then I doubted it.

I doubted I had heard what I heard. Even though, I had heard it for awhile. Even though, I looked up fetal heart tones on the Internet and the sound I downloaded was the same that had come from my at home Doppler. Even though, if anything in my body had a pulse of 176 bpm besides a baby, I'd probably be dead. And I knew I was crazy to be doubting what I had heard when there had been no mistaking it, but then again part of me wondered if I had made it up because I had wanted to hear it so badly. If hysterical pregnancies exist, couldn't hysterical hearing?

When your body keeps betraying you, ( and I don't care if a miscarriage is "nature's way") you stop trusting it. When you look for blood on the toilet paper and twice the absence of it doesn't mean a damn thing because your baby is dead anyway, you start to doubt your own experience. When you're in the midst of your first miscarriage, and are still having morning sickness, symptoms mean shit.  When you go through five packs of pregnancy tests with mixed results because  the egg was fertilized but didn't implant, you start to hate your body for reasons that have nothing to do with image.

I am sixteen and a half weeks pregnant now. Part of me is still waiting for the other shoe to drop. I am too familiar with the baby and pregnancy loss community to ever think there is a safe point. It annoys me when people ask me when I have the ultrasound to find out the sex. That ultrasound is the ultrasound that is going to let me know if my baby is healthy so far. Some women go to that ultrasound and are not so lucky.  Every night I go to bed and pray for a full term, healthy, live birth. I hope I am covering all my bases. I know more than any pregnant woman should about all the crappy things that can happen. And I no longer have the luxury of thinking they won't happen to me because some of them already have.